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A Life Lived Resolved
Finding God's Peace and Purpose in our Everyday Lives

By Evangelist Nidicka Frederick

Passage Philippians 4:6-7

6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

January is typically a time of renewal. The very exclamation of Happy New Year’s encourages us to look forward to a better (if not different) year ahead of us. Millions of people jump on the bandwagon of making New Year’s resolutions and usually, by February 1st most of those same millions are left feeling unresolved (and sometimes defeated) at least until January roles around again. Why do you think it is so difficult to keep a new resolution? 
I believe it is because we are taught backwards. We make a list of things we’d like to accomplish while in an un-accomplishable state of mind. For instance: I want to lose 10 pounds. For me to make a resolution to lose weight before becoming resolved as to why, how, and what I’m eating is fruitless. If I’m eating out of nervousness or anxiety and use food to emote then I will not be successful in my resolution. Now if learn my habits, pray and ask God for guidance and place better, healthier choices in my life and then make a resolution to lose 10 pounds…it’s as good as done. Now let’s apply this principle to the totality of our lives-
Reflect on some of the goals you have set for yourself which you have not been able to achieve.  Now think about what are some of your obstacles to resolving those goals?  Completing my degree and expanding this ministry were just two of my own. Answers in the flesh might include answers such as troubles with finances, children, a demanding job, incomplete education, spouses, or fear. Truer obstacles we will discuss today include: lacks in faith and patience, perseverance and endurance, and in understanding of our true power because of fear. 
Obstacles are nothing more than negative experiences or thought processes that become strongholds which inevitably keep us from our destiny. Obstacles are challenges waiting to be overcome. Job’s example in the Bible teaches us that obstacles can be physical, financial, mental, and spiritual! What the Bible does not teach us is that obstacles are designed to overcome us and are stronger than God. I’m reminding of an old adage that says, “Stop telling God how big your problems are and start telling your problems how big your God is!” The first step in overcoming any obstacle and living a resolved life is knowing your power as a child of God. 
How can we live resolved when life is filled with such adversity?  For this we look to God’s Word.

Passage Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.

Lack of FAITH/Patience

One of the hardest parts of finding resolution in difficult times is our own misguided thought process- we think wrong! We usually try to “fix, change or handle” what is not ours to touch while being complacent with the things we can, should and are expected to change. Do you remember The Serenity Prayer? Are you familiar with it in its entirety? I love this prayer because it touches on each of the five themes of this ministry: Renewal, surrender, accountability, repentance, and purpose. Unfortunately, many have learned this prayer in piecemeal and not in its entirety. In the latter half of this popular prayer we see the author knows how to seek resolution in this life by accepting adversity as a path to peace and placing all hope, faith and desires in this world in Him. 

 The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity 

to accept the things I cannot change; 

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference. 

Living one day at a time; 

Enjoying one moment at a time; 

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; 

Taking, as He did, this sinful world

as it is, not as I would have it; 

Trusting that He will make all things right

if I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life 

and supremely happy with Him

Forever in the next.


--Reinhold Niebuhr

How many hours of your life have you spent- trying to get the approval of others, trying to be like (loved or adored), wanting someone to be your friend or lover, looking for attention, needing validation, feeling depressed, anxious and alone, and wanting someone else to change? For many, their existence is based entirely or in part of this list. Now imagine how much we could have accomplished in God’s will had we placed all of that energy in the right place. 

Our actions speak to our faith and our faith to our endurance. The New Year is a perfect time for self-introspection and to determine whether your life speaks faith and endurance or is it being wasted trying to do things in your own strength that can only be done with God’s. Are you setting financial goals without a heart of giving? Are you seeking new relationships while holding on to grudges and withholding forgiveness? Niebuhr understands that to live life resolved one must be willing to surrender. Surrender all of the old habits that hinder your likeness to Christ and adopt behaviors of peace, love, forgiveness, faith and patience.  

Passage 1 Peter 4:12-13

12 Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you. 13 Instead, be very glad—for these trials make you partners with Christ in his suffering, so that you will have the wonderful joy of seeing his glory when it is revealed to all the world.

The second thing I believe that makes it difficult for us to live a life resolved is our inability to endure suffering.

Pains stinks and to further complicate things bad things happen to us when we are trying to be especially good people. Pain does not discriminate. I love Paul’s speech to the Corinthians when he shares his hardships. Let’s look closer-

Passage 2 Corinthians 6:3-8

Paul’s Hardships

3 We live in such a way that no one will stumble because of us, and no one will find fault with our ministry. 4 In everything we do, we show that we are true ministers of God. We patiently endure troubles and hardships and calamities of every kind. 5 We have been beaten, been put in prison, faced angry mobs, worked to exhaustion, endured sleepless nights, and gone without food. 6 We prove ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, by the Holy Spirit within us, and by our sincere love. 7 We faithfully preach the truth. God’s power is working in us. We use the weapons of righteousness in the right hand for attack and the left hand for defense. 8 We serve God whether people honor us or despise us, whether they slander us or praise us. We are honest, but they call us impostors. 

It is unrealistic for us to want to live in perpetual happy bubbles. It’s a much better investment to learn how to endure through hardship. 

WHAT WE DO: We complain, bicker, accuse, interfere, engage, we move in our own strength, and we justify our ungodly behaviors…

WHAT GOD WANTS US TO DO: (Read James 1:1-26 in its entirety

  • Corinthian 2:10 take pleasure in our weakness
  • 1John 1:9 confess our sins
  • Galatians 5:16 walk in the spirit

God makes provision for our endurance through difficult times and promises to be our strength to get through them.

Passage 2 Timothy 1:7

7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Lack of understanding of our power

Usually, when we approach change, we approach it in our own strength. Problem is God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness. Do you see how we are coming back to the idea of surrender? Sometimes, we need to be weak to be strong but we take offense instead of pride in our weakness. Let’s look closer-

 Passage 2 Corinthians 12:7-10:

7 even though I have received such wonderful revelations from God. So to keep me from becoming proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud. 8 Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. 9 Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.

Another thing that makes it very difficult to live a life resolved is underestimating our power and the misunderstanding of our strength, and our power through Christ.
Scripture says that we can do all things through Christ who strengthen us (Philippians 4:13) but we think God is suppose to have our backs as we “handle our business”- This is misguided and wrong.
How many times have we all concocted schemes of revenge or trying to teach others a lesson or even trying desperately to get “our point of view” across?  I have given counsel and used the word submission to get amazing results! We have become so far removed from the Bible that its very instruction offends us and we need to be careful! There is a line between moving in your own strength and having your steps ordered of the Lord and it’s a distinction worth learning. Moving in your own strength shows self-righteousness. Having your steps ordered is being in righteousness and there is a big difference! Before attempting any type of resolution, we must first become fully resolved in God’s will for patience, endurance, and his power in our lives.

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